Yesterday I spoke with my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Christopher Henley.  I wanted to share with her what I’ve been up to and where I’m going.  I said I was looking for support with my Vision (read approval). 

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Yesterday I spoke with my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Christopher Henley.  I wanted to share with her what I’ve been up to and where I’m going.  I said I was looking for support with my Vision (read approval). 

I laugh now, because as I was sharing my Vision, she would say to me, “I knew that”.  She’s always seen through the “Me” I present to the world right to the core where the “True Me” lives.  I received my approval, and then some. 

Divine has been sharing with me that the only approval I need is from Divine, and I already have that.  Yet, as I reach out for support with my Vision I notice how my “Little Me” sneaks its requirement for approval in there. 

I watch as my “Little Me” voice pops in and out with my “True Me” voice.  I can actually hear the difference.  The tone of voice is different.  The choice of words is different.  The energy is completely different.

When my “Little Me” speaks up, my body tightens; my breathing changes and I begin to stutter.   I go into details and how’s for the Vision. 

When my “True Me” speaks up, my body loosens; my breathing evens out and my words flow.  The focus is no longer on me and the how’s.  The focus is on the Vision.  The energy is of excitement and is expansive. 

Then, as if taken over by the “True Me”, and my “Little Me” gasps in the background, out comes the BIG Vision, the Vision that includes Me in a BIG way.  Yes, the Vision I was originally speaking of included me, but this BIG Vision goes beyond.  It feels so right, and yet causes my “Little Me” clear distress that leaves her mouth and eyes wide open in shock and fear.

After I shared these Visions (both the Current Vision and the BIG Vision) with her, and she gave me her “I knew that” statement, she immediately set out a series of tasks for me, which I am following.

First, she suggested I create a page on Facebook for the Vision.  CHECK! 

Second, she suggested I write about the Journey for this Vision.  CHECK!  (You’re reading the beginning of this.)

Third, she suggested I begin speaking with people about this Vision.  What is it, and most importantly, why is it?  Who else do they know that I can talk to about this Vision? 

I can see multiple reasons for this speaking with people about the Vision. 

I am Speaking into the Vision.  The more I speak into the Vision, the more Energy I give it.  The more Energy I give it, the closer it gets to Reality.

The more I speak to others about the Vision, the more witnesses there are to the Vision.  The more Eyes seeing the Vision, the more Energy the Vision is given. 

I believe it’s Quantum Physics that speaks to how important the Witness is to Form.  I’ll bet that Henry Ford spoke about his Vision to others, and by doing so accelerated it being brought into physical reality.  If he would have left his Vision in his mind, and never allowed it out of his mouth, there would not be a Ford Motor Company now!

I have a list of people to speak to, both physically and virtually. 

I choose to Speak into the Vision, and allow others to Witness it too.  I will support my “Little Me” through the discomfort as well.

It will be interesting to see who will choose to bear witness to this Vision. 

It’s going to be an amazing Journey.  I know I will learn so much along the way. 

Join me as I reveal my Vision, and the Journey that follows.

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Do you have a BIG Vision too?  Has your “True You” been nudging you to Speak Into your Vision?  Has your “Little You” been sharing its fears?

Follow along with me and set your Vision free!

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Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

This makes things challenging when most of what I do is done over the internet. 

I wibble wabbled back and forth for the 3 [...]]]> Last week I was offline.  I wasn’t supposed to be. The company that I have my internet and more through had made a mistake, and I was cut off.

This makes things challenging when most of what I do is done over the internet. 

I wibble wabbled back and forth for the 3 1/2 days I was offline.  I was angry.  I was grateful.  I was upset and vocal.  I was calm and grounded.

Sure I was angry I couldn’t connect to the internet and get most of my work done, but I was grateful they didn’t cut me off until after my radio show. 

I spent some relaxing moments on the couch reading Dr. Meg Blackburn’s book, getting ready for the next Welcome Changes Radio show.

I tweeted from my new smart phone that I had finished setting up the day before my internet stopped working.  Again, I was grateful for the evidence that I am always cared for.

Every day I talked to someone else. Tomorrow I’ll be hooked up. Tomorrow would come and nothing would happen.  Finally Thursday night when I wasn’t up and running again like promised, I was getting angry with and apologizing to a technician.  I apologized to him because he didn’t cause the problem, but I was angry with the company.  He escalated my issue to a manager.  Finally!

Afterwards I phoned my friend to vent.  “You’ve done all the leg work, but did you ask for what you want energetically?”  Uh…no!  Not that I spent the whole time griping, I didn’t.  I did spend time expressing gratitude for the quiet time, knowing I’m always cared for, and more, but I didn’t once say what I wanted.

I wanted a manager that was helpful.  I wanted to be compensated for my down time, and I wanted more than the “here’s a refund for the 3 days you’ve been down”.  I wanted it to be fixed quickly and properly.

The manager was helpful and sent out a technician to my residence.  I liked the technician.  I felt like he was going to bat for me.  I kept hearing “That’s NOT what the customer wanted!”  I eventually found out that some changes they made 3 months ago were not done properly, which is what caused the months of billing issues I was having and the eventual disconnecting of my internet and phone.  Yes, Friday came around and I didn’t have my business line anymore either.  It was a comedy of errors.

No matter what happened, I rolled with it.

I was thanked by the technician for being so patient and calm.  I had a technician that HEARD me and what I needed, and took care of it.  It took him 3 hours of being on the phone going from person to person until he found someone who could do what was needed, but he did it.  I received appropriate compensation.  My time was valued.

This week is going to be busy.  I’ll be putting what I learned from last week’s guest, Neil Fiore, to work.  It would be too easy to move into overwhelm, which then moves into procrastination.  Today I picked my top tasks and rolled with them.

Whether it’s the events of your life, or a long list of to-do’s, a great skill to cultivate is rolling with it. 

What CAN you do? What IS good about this? What ARE you grateful for?

Keep on Rolling!

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

It’s not what it really said, but that’s what I saw, and it stuck.

It’s not a threat.  It’s just a reminder.

The regret doesn’t come from bad things [...]]]> I was just cleaning out my spam, and came across an email that I thought said “Ignore the Now and You Will Regret It Later”.

It’s not what it really said, but that’s what I saw, and it stuck.

It’s not a threat.  It’s just a reminder.

The regret doesn’t come from bad things happening.  The regret comes because of good things missed.

The NOW is the only reality.  The past is long gone, and the future hasn’t happened.  Neither truly exist.

All we have is NOW.

What will you spend your NOW on?

Worrying about your future?  Grieving your past?

Or appreciating every tiny thing in front of you?

Appreciation…Gratitude…Love…Those are the things worth filling your life with.

I was having a discussion with my mentor and dear friend, Patti Dragland.  We were discussing how stuff happens, no matter what, and we not only get to choose how we look at things, we are responsible for how we choose to look at things.

Something is in front of you.  As the sun shines down on it, there are two sides you can look at.  The bright side, or the shadow side.  They both exist.  Staring at one or the other does not cause the thing to disappear.  It only affects your NOW experience.

Spend your NOW worrying or complaining, and your NOW will slip away quietly.  You’ll hardly notice the moments fading.

There are so many things to experience NOW!

Did you see the ladybug on your hand?  What about the butterfly on the flower?  Did you see the hawk flying overhead?  Did you feel the baby’s soft hair against your cheek?  Did you hear your child’s laughter?  Did you feel your partner’s hand in yours? What about the wind in your hair as your bike screams down the hill?

What do you smell now?  What do you taste now?  What’s waiting to be touched now?

What will you miss now if you don’t stop to notice…NOW?

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

PS ~ Now Thinking = JOY made EASY

Community is so important. It’s not the things that bring us happiness. It is our connections that bring us true happiness.

Yes, our relationship to other is a vital part of these connections, but there’s one relationship [...]]]>

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." – Buddha

Community is so important. It’s not the things that bring us happiness. It is our connections that bring us true happiness.

Yes, our relationship to other is a vital part of these connections, but there’s one relationship that is more important than all the others.

That essential relationship is our connection to self.

What we want from others we must give ourselves first.

The interesting thing about this is that once we give these things to ourselves, the need to receive it from others disappears. We already have what we need.

What do we often desire or believe we need from others? A few examples would be love, approval, appreciation, support, acceptance, trust and faith.

These create some of our biggest “If…then…” scenarios.

Also interesting is that we often withhold these from ourselves because others do not offer them to us.

How can I love myself? My ____ doesn’t. I must not be loveable.

In truth, no one can love you until you love yourself. It’s not the other way around. Somewhere along the way we made that up.

Whatever it is you are looking for from others, stop looking outside of you for it. Turn to yourself. Give this to yourself, and receive this from yourself.

This can be done simply. Begin asking yourself simple questions that move you in that direction.

How can I show myself love today??

How can I show myself appreciation today?

What would it take to accept myself?

What would it take to have faith in myself?

Write these questions in your journal. You may get an immediate answer, but often the answers to these questions show up when you least expect it.

It’s these small daily practices that begin the process of connecting more deeply with you.

As you connect more deeply with you, the JOY comes in. The simple things begin to hold more meaning. The connections with others grow.

JOY fills every corner of your life.

JOY fills you.

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Velma Gallant, The Queen of JOY! is an author, speaker, teacher, and healer.  As the host of “Welcome Changes Radio, she has interviewed over 100 personal growth and development experts.  Between growing up, raising a family, and building her business, she’s come to the conclusion that life is a continuous series of events and transitions.  There were times when she felt lost, broken, and confused, until she realized she wasn’t defined by these events and transitions.  Velma has stopped defining herself by what she does and the events of her life, and invites you to do the same!  JOY comes from within, and has been there all along, waiting to be rediscovered. http://velmagallant.com

Honestly, I thought I’d end up watching the first 30 seconds, maybe a minute, and then I’d close it up and move on to whatever else showed up. 

Nope!  I couldn’t close it until it was done, and then [...]]]> This is one of the most amazing videos I’ve watched in a long time!

Honestly, I thought I’d end up watching the first 30 seconds, maybe a minute, and then I’d close it up and move on to whatever else showed up. 

Nope!  I couldn’t close it until it was done, and then I just had to put it up here.

I hope enjoy it as much as I did!

And I just gotta tell you…You’re AWESOME!

Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

PS ~ If you haven’t already checked this out, it’s great!  http://youaremagnificent.com

PPS ~ Are you a JOYTASTIC Woman? http://joytasticwomen.com