Yesterday I spoke with my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Christopher Henley.  I wanted to share with her what I’ve been up to and where I’m going.  I said I was looking for support with my Vision (read approval). 

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Yesterday I spoke with my dear friend and mentor, Dr. Christopher Henley.  I wanted to share with her what I’ve been up to and where I’m going.  I said I was looking for support with my Vision (read approval). 

I laugh now, because as I was sharing my Vision, she would say to me, “I knew that”.  She’s always seen through the “Me” I present to the world right to the core where the “True Me” lives.  I received my approval, and then some. 

Divine has been sharing with me that the only approval I need is from Divine, and I already have that.  Yet, as I reach out for support with my Vision I notice how my “Little Me” sneaks its requirement for approval in there. 

I watch as my “Little Me” voice pops in and out with my “True Me” voice.  I can actually hear the difference.  The tone of voice is different.  The choice of words is different.  The energy is completely different.

When my “Little Me” speaks up, my body tightens; my breathing changes and I begin to stutter.   I go into details and how’s for the Vision. 

When my “True Me” speaks up, my body loosens; my breathing evens out and my words flow.  The focus is no longer on me and the how’s.  The focus is on the Vision.  The energy is of excitement and is expansive. 

Then, as if taken over by the “True Me”, and my “Little Me” gasps in the background, out comes the BIG Vision, the Vision that includes Me in a BIG way.  Yes, the Vision I was originally speaking of included me, but this BIG Vision goes beyond.  It feels so right, and yet causes my “Little Me” clear distress that leaves her mouth and eyes wide open in shock and fear.

After I shared these Visions (both the Current Vision and the BIG Vision) with her, and she gave me her “I knew that” statement, she immediately set out a series of tasks for me, which I am following.

First, she suggested I create a page on Facebook for the Vision.  CHECK! 

Second, she suggested I write about the Journey for this Vision.  CHECK!  (You’re reading the beginning of this.)

Third, she suggested I begin speaking with people about this Vision.  What is it, and most importantly, why is it?  Who else do they know that I can talk to about this Vision? 

I can see multiple reasons for this speaking with people about the Vision. 

I am Speaking into the Vision.  The more I speak into the Vision, the more Energy I give it.  The more Energy I give it, the closer it gets to Reality.

The more I speak to others about the Vision, the more witnesses there are to the Vision.  The more Eyes seeing the Vision, the more Energy the Vision is given. 

I believe it’s Quantum Physics that speaks to how important the Witness is to Form.  I’ll bet that Henry Ford spoke about his Vision to others, and by doing so accelerated it being brought into physical reality.  If he would have left his Vision in his mind, and never allowed it out of his mouth, there would not be a Ford Motor Company now!

I have a list of people to speak to, both physically and virtually. 

I choose to Speak into the Vision, and allow others to Witness it too.  I will support my “Little Me” through the discomfort as well.

It will be interesting to see who will choose to bear witness to this Vision. 

It’s going to be an amazing Journey.  I know I will learn so much along the way. 

Join me as I reveal my Vision, and the Journey that follows.

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Do you have a BIG Vision too?  Has your “True You” been nudging you to Speak Into your Vision?  Has your “Little You” been sharing its fears?

Follow along with me and set your Vision free!

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Dream BIG!

Velma Gallant
The Queen of JOY!

Community is so important. It’s not the things that bring us happiness. It is our connections that bring us true happiness.

Yes, our relationship to other is a vital part of these connections, but there’s one relationship [...]]]>

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." – Buddha

Community is so important. It’s not the things that bring us happiness. It is our connections that bring us true happiness.

Yes, our relationship to other is a vital part of these connections, but there’s one relationship that is more important than all the others.

That essential relationship is our connection to self.

What we want from others we must give ourselves first.

The interesting thing about this is that once we give these things to ourselves, the need to receive it from others disappears. We already have what we need.

What do we often desire or believe we need from others? A few examples would be love, approval, appreciation, support, acceptance, trust and faith.

These create some of our biggest “If…then…” scenarios.

Also interesting is that we often withhold these from ourselves because others do not offer them to us.

How can I love myself? My ____ doesn’t. I must not be loveable.

In truth, no one can love you until you love yourself. It’s not the other way around. Somewhere along the way we made that up.

Whatever it is you are looking for from others, stop looking outside of you for it. Turn to yourself. Give this to yourself, and receive this from yourself.

This can be done simply. Begin asking yourself simple questions that move you in that direction.

How can I show myself love today??

How can I show myself appreciation today?

What would it take to accept myself?

What would it take to have faith in myself?

Write these questions in your journal. You may get an immediate answer, but often the answers to these questions show up when you least expect it.

It’s these small daily practices that begin the process of connecting more deeply with you.

As you connect more deeply with you, the JOY comes in. The simple things begin to hold more meaning. The connections with others grow.

JOY fills every corner of your life.

JOY fills you.

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Velma Gallant, The Queen of JOY! is an author, speaker, teacher, and healer.  As the host of “Welcome Changes Radio, she has interviewed over 100 personal growth and development experts.  Between growing up, raising a family, and building her business, she’s come to the conclusion that life is a continuous series of events and transitions.  There were times when she felt lost, broken, and confused, until she realized she wasn’t defined by these events and transitions.  Velma has stopped defining herself by what she does and the events of her life, and invites you to do the same!  JOY comes from within, and has been there all along, waiting to be rediscovered. http://velmagallant.com

Why?  Are we not enough as we are?

Not Enough and Not Good Enough.  [...]]]> It begins as children.  We do things as children to receive the approval of our parents.  As we grow older we seek approval from our friends, coworkers, and our partners.  We often seek approval from people we don’t even know.

Why?  Are we not enough as we are?

Not Enough and Not Good Enough.  Those are things MANY of us play with on a daily and ongoing basis.

I’ve been seeking approval for years.  I remember as a child being meek because I was afraid people would reject me.  I would not get their approval.  I hid myself, because I assumed this.  Yes, I did not get that approval, but they weren’t rejecting me, they were rejecting the “Not Me” I presented.  I was hidden away, because in essence I had rejected myself.

As I grew older, my need for approval grew too.  I was still not good enough, so I went on the hunt for evidence that maybe I was, and I looked to others for this approval.

Problem was, I wasn’t getting it.  Sure, sometimes I’d hear it.  More often than not, what I did wasn’t good enough for other people either.  I was on a perpetual journey of looking for my approval outside of myself.

I know I am not alone on this.  I have found out over the years that with anything I experienced, I was not alone, even though I thought and felt I was.

My Spirit knew that the approval needed to come from within.  My Spirit also knew that the only thing stopping me from going within was this human brain of mine.  I needed to “get it” there too.  That connection wasn’t coming easy though!  My brain had already collected so much information to the contrary, she wasn’t going to be easily convinced!

And then it happened.  All of the sudden there was a direct connection between my brain and my Spirit.  My brain got it!

As I share this, my hope and intention is that this supports your brain to get it too.

We’ve heard it before.  We are spiritual beings having a human experience.  I have found this to be true.  I have also found that my human-ness is just as important as my Spirit-ness — at least while I’m here having this human experience.  I certainly can’t reject this part of my experience.  I still have to eat, sleep, and do those things to take care of my Human body. 

I’ve decided that when I get something Spiritually, it would probably serve me to get it with my Human-self too.  Especially as I find any “blocks” I have are created by my Human-self.

Back to my “Ah-ha” about approval.

One of the things I have realized is that most of us are walking around “wearing” our stories.  We communicate through our stories.  We filter just about everything through our stories.  How we operate in life is generally through our stories.  Yes, there are a few who don’t, but really, the majority of us do. 

Our stories are how we have chosen to interpret our experiences.  How we do everything is based upon those interpretations.  How we love, how we judge, how we interact or don’t interact.

When we receive any kind of reaction from someone else, their reaction has been filtered through their story.  You could say their reaction is from their story, and not truly from that person.

This is something my Human-self has been grasping for a bit.  Then, my beautiful brain took that connection just one step further.

When I am seeking approval from outside of me, I am getting (or not getting) approval from People’s Stories.  I’m not “getting or not getting” THEIR approval.  I’m “getting or not getting” their Story’s approval!

Their story isn’t them.  My story isn’t me.

All this time I’ve been craving approval from something that isn’t even real!

That seems pretty crazy to me now that I think about it!

From this perspective, it only makes sense to me that the best place to seek approval is from myself, and if I’m not giving myself approval, it’s not really me rejecting me.  It’s coming from my stories.

So if I’m not rejecting me.  Then, I must be approving of me.

All this time I was looking for approval, and I had it all along.

You’ve had your approval all along too.

Amazing.  We were looking so hard for something we already had.

Now that you know you already have your approval, what’s next?

It’s going to be so much fun celebrating all our amazing achievements!

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“We can secure other people’s approval, if we do it right and try hard; but our own is worth a hundred of it.” ~ Mark Twain

Did this quote caused you to look more closely?  Do you really approve of you?  Does someone else’s approval mean more to you?  Do you seek others approval FIRST before your own?

You may find value in the 7 Roadblocks to Self Love Report.  Go to http://www.welcomechanges.com and order your free copy of the report. 

How you feel about you, and how you treat you has more to do with your success than the approval of others.

Dream BIG!
Velma Gallant
“The Queen of JOY!”
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